With the turn of a new calendar year, we have now entered the season of endless #NewYearNewMe memes and social media posts, while getting inundated with newsletters trying to clickbait the integrity and follow-through of our New Year’s resolutions.
In previous years, my New Year’s resolutions entailed desires of a new and toned body and an overflowing bank account. My one-dimensional view of success always felt vain and soul-sucking. In recent years, especially this year, I’ve taken a step back from writing a resolution list that enforces the idea that I am not enough exactly where I am right now. Instead, I’ve been focusing on what I’m ready to call into my life.
January is a great time for quiet self-reflection. Though every newsletter is reminding me to urgently get on top of my New Year’s resolutions, I am reminding myself that there is no rush in figuring out what I’m ready to grow in my life. I’m not on anyone else’s timeline but my own.
With the first new moon of the year, I’ve been finding myself thinking a lot about a statement I’ve heard Oprah say a thousand times, “You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”
It gives me goosebumps every time I hear it; reminding me of all the times I haven’t allowed myself to ask for something because the inner and external risks always far outweighed the potential rewards.
Over the years, and most recently in therapy, I’ve learned that my mind is the armor of my desires. My mind would sooner have me stay small, in order for me to feel safe, than risk it all and watch me fail.
But my soul. My soul has deep-rooted desires and has been sending me gentle nudges for years, encouraging me to release myself from the chains of my own mind — to live life more boldly, with more courage and love. I think I’m finally ready to hear her out.
So this new moon I’m taking stock of what I’m afraid to ask for. The things my soul desires but my mind is too afraid to let in. This new moon, this new year, I will be watering the seeds my soul wants to watch blossom.
Journal: What does your soul desire this new moon? What are you too afraid to ask for? What do you think your mind is protecting you from?
Wisdom: “Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor—the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, … courage originally meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.” – Brene Brown
Watching: Urgent vs important