Lyme Disease Almost Killed Me

A few years ago, I wrote thirty-eight goodbye letters. Some of them were to life-long friends, others to people I had met only in passing. All had left a lasting impact. Keeping the letters short, I only said what mattered; I needed to let them know how much I valued them.

In writing these, I took a look at value—my value—and realized I had it all wrong.

I thought of value as an end goal, a standing ovation from an invisible panel of judges I’d been trying to impress. The means were appearance and stature; insecurity was at its root; and social media was where I put it on display. How I looked, what I wore, who I knew, and my bullet point list of accomplishments were my metrics. Though I had always vouched to not care what others thought of me, that was an assertion that covered up a lie.

I wish I’d recognized this misconception sooner.

Back then, I had all the trappings of a fairly happy life. I had good friends, a career in music, and enough energy to keep me up until five in the morning making art and planning out the next five years. Luck was an everyday norm.

   A sudden jolt of electricity coursed through my brain. My eyes filled with stars. That night, I slept on the couch in my parent’s room. I tossed and turned until morning, my heart racing as the stars became the universe.

One day, I began to feel a bit ill. I thought a flu was coming on. After working sixty-hour weeks, it made sense that I’d feel run down. I stayed home, and my coworkers told me to take it easy.

My boyfriend and I were apartment hunting and I’d been staying at my parent’s house in the interim. Around midnight, at home in my bed, a sudden jolt of electricity coursed through my brain. My eyes filled with stars. My heartbeat sped up. My breath was short. My vision went blurry.

I fumbled towards my parent’s bedroom and called out for my dad.

“What’s going on, honey?”

“Something’s wrong,” I said, leaning my weight against the doorframe. “I don’t feel right.”

He got out of bed and took me downstairs. In the kitchen he pulled out salt and potassium tablets and filled up a glass of water, explaining that the heat of summer had probably depleted me of minerals. Still seeing stars, I swallowed everything he placed in front of me.

That night, I slept on the couch in my parent’s room. I tossed and turned until morning, my heart racing as the stars became the universe.

On the car ride to the doctor’s office the next morning, I didn’t speak much. My mind was full of the fear of what could be wrong, but my thoughts reflected a newfound simplicity: I was either going to survive or I wasn’t.

The doctor examined me and concluded that it was a virus. She sent me away to sleep it off.

   My mind was full of the fear of what could be wrong, but my thoughts reflected a newfound simplicity: I was either going to survive or I wasn’t.

I rested for two weeks and nothing changed. The existing symptoms grew worse and I tallied the new ones in a notebook.

“The dizziness has turned into constant vertigo.”

“The fear is now tremors through my limbs.”

“I’ve lost fifteen pounds without changing my diet.”

“I’m forgetting words and have a hard time completing sentences.”

“My heart continually races like a fourteen-year-old in love.”

I went back to the same doctor. She checked for cancer. Negative. Parkinson’s Disease. Negative. She did an ultrasound of my organs and checked my thyroid. Nothing.

She suggested I see a nutritionist. I went. I told him all of my symptoms; he tried to sell me products with his name on them. I cried in the elevator.

For the next few months I lay in bed and consulted with nine different doctors. They examined every inch of my body and found nothing. New symptoms appeared as fast as cars at rush hour.

I went to the emergency room five different times.

Inside, I waged a silent war. If I got too angry, I’d be institutionalized; one doctor had threatened, twice, to send me to a psych ward during one of my ER visits. But, if I was too calm, no one would take me seriously. If I wanted help, I had to develop a new personality.

So I wrote a new character: I was an innocent bystander held captive by my body that was, in turn, possessed by a mysterious force. I had to separate myself from my symptoms and prove I was of sound mind.

But I couldn’t convince the doctors of my undiagnosable pain. Their diagnosis was consistent across the board: I was having a nervous breakdown.

They prescribed Valium for panic attacks, suggested treatment facilities for the weight loss they could only understand as an eating disorder, and suggested uppers for depression.

It was all in my head.

For stretches of time I did not move or shower for days. When I finally found the strength, getting out of bed and walking to the bathroom took longer than it would have to order and drink a cup of coffee. Confronted by the mirror, I’d scan the new rashes along my chest and forehead. When I undressed, I had to stop over and over again, beset by waves of vertigo. Once I was naked, I looked back in the mirror and counted every rib. Ten more pounds lost. I was looking at myself but I felt like an outsider five feet away, watching myself dissolve.

I saw some friends. There were a select few who stuck around and brought light to my life. Some I only saw once; apparently, my unexplained condition was unappealing. The rest of them wrote off my absence as part of a creative phase; to them, I wasn’t dying, I was just being a hermetic artist.

   I realized this wasn’t just an illness, it was a metamorphosis. In the beginning, I thought getting better would mean going back to being the person I was before I was sick. This would never happen.

My boyfriend remained busy with his own life. He was disappointed with me. By me. “I don’t know what happened to the person I fell in love with,” he said when I dropped my end of a new desk we were loading into our apartment.

I wasn’t sure what I had done to deserve this. My lack of God didn’t help. I believed that we wrote our own lives, but this twist was unexpected. I didn’t remember plotting this course.

Once, in a hallucinatory state of panic, I saw a dark, blurred mass in the corner of my room. I asked it why it was here. It told me it was Death.

That’s when I wrote them: thirty-eight letters to the most impactful people in my life. In finishing the final one, I stopped to re-read what I had written:

“You were always such a positive presence in my life, whether you were physically there or not.”

I took a second to reflect. It hit me all at once.

A positive presence. When I walked away from these people, I wished I didn’t have to. I felt strong with them; I felt better. I was empowered by their existence alone.

Here’s who didn’t make me feel like that: My doctors, who discouraged me and told me I was crazy. My boyfriend, who had dug into my psyche and planted shame, convincing me that I should be sorry for my illness. The people who had turned their heads from me because the reality was too difficult to bear.

But those friends, the few that had stuck around, made me feel loved and cared for. My parents were the most supportive people I knew.

I stopped going to the ER. I stopped calling the doctors. I shunned those who did not support or believe in me.

I broke up with my boyfriend. He begged me to stay, punching himself in the chest as he apologized for his inability to empathize. I accepted his apology but not his presence in my life.

   I soldiered through each symptom until it was gone. It took 18 months to fully recover. My heart slowed down. My limbs stopped shaking. My body gained weight and, finally, I felt like I was in control.

I turned to the Internet. I searched every physical symptom of a nervous breakdown. Mentally, I knew I was sound, but if this was my “diagnosis” I was going to treat it with a side of rebellion. I printed out diets. I purchased every supplement and herb. I wrote down a routine I would follow, and I did. I soldiered through each symptom until it was gone. It took eighteen months to fully recover. My heart slowed down. My limbs stopped shaking. My body gained weight and, finally, I felt like I was in control.

I had come to realize this wasn’t just an illness, it was a metamorphosis. In the beginning, I thought getting better would mean going back to being the person I was before I was sick. This would never happen. There was no going back. I could only grow into who I was becoming.

Almost a year after my recovery I found out that, unbeknownst to me and everyone else, I had beaten Lyme disease.

It’s hard to swallow that where I thought I would be died during those years. I had been healthy and seemingly invincible, with the goals and expectations of a vibrant woman in her early twenties, and I had been working hard to attain them. But all that changed because a tick bit my hip. Instead of checking off achievements on my Life List, I’d learned what death felt like. I like to think that this insect chose me. I needed this awakening.

Value is measured in how much we can help another. It is our ability to love unconditionally. It’s in what we make and ultimately what that creation does for other people. It’s not giving into pretenses. It’s being a positive presence, the warm feeling we leave someone with when we walk away. It does not live in the pockets of our overpriced jeans or the apparent happiness we project. There’s no ovation.

   Value is our ability to love unconditionally. It’s in what we make and what that creation does for other people.

I approach my relationships differently now. It’s trite but true: Before I could be a true friend to anyone else I had to truly befriend myself. Now, knowing that, I can empathize and rejoice alongside friends and partners without losing any of my own strength and integrity. I used to think value was an invisible pedestal, but now I just think of the ways in which we can lift each other up. When someone walks away from me, do they feel empowered? More importantly, do I?

23 responses to “Lyme Disease Almost Killed Me”

  1. Janet Jensen says:

    WOW! I had no idea. I thank the heavens for your recovery. xoxo

  2. pAUL says:

    Wow! Such an important story, Alex. And impactful. And brilliantly laid out and told. Thank you!!

  3. Michel Wisner says:

    This is true. This is beautiful. You are such a precious being. My daughter. Love, Dad.

  4. Shiloh says:

    This was a very moving story, thank you for sharing it with us. Such a beautiful wisdom is crafted into this story.

  5. Adrian Heredia says:

    OMG I actually shed some tears. I had cancer and felt a very similar experience before they found out that it was cancer. They thought I was crazy but I insisted that I wasn’t feeling well. I still have a constant battle with my body so I can relate with the struggle. Thanks for sharing defintely great to know I was not alone in a similar experience.

    • Alex K WIsner Alex K WIsner says:

      Wow. I’m so sorry to hear that but so happy to hear you got through it. Yes, being ill and fighting is such a particular experience that no one could understand unless they’ve gone through it. Much love <3

  6. Chris says:

    Beautiful xo

  7. Lauren Perreau says:

    Thank you for sharing this terrifying, yet important story..I hope it helps others understand this illness are a trouper…Well done

  8. Lauren Perreau says:

    Also, you are a fantastic writer..!Brilliant, actually

  9. Rick says:

    Outstanding. How did you beat lyme, herbs, antibiotics, diet, rife machine?
    There are many out there searching for the answers you found.

    • Alex K WIsner Alex K WIsner says:

      It was a mixture of antibiotics for a few months, complete change of diet, herbal supplements, amino acids, vitamins (a key one being B3 to detox and bring out the Lyme from the tissue) and quite a few other things. I actually need to get around to publicly publishing something I’ve written out as to how I healed.

    • Laura says:

      I would love to know this as well. 3 years into treatment and feel like I don’t have much longer. 💛

      • Alex K WIsner Alex K WIsner says:

        Please feel free to email me. <3 My email is listed next to my name at the bottom of this article.

      • Alex Wisner Alex Wisner says:

        This is what I did:

        Daily routine for 4-6 months:

        Get 8 hours sleep if possible and at reasonable hours (10pm bedtime, etc.)


        Take these on an empty stomach:

        Serrapeptase (enzyme)

        Solgar Amino Acids Complex
        Solgar GABA
        Source Naturals DMAE
        Source Naturals Phosphatidyl Choline
        Jarrow Acetyl L-Carnitine

        Juice or smoothie: Kale, Cucumber, Apple, Banana (if you can handle the potassium intake) & carrots with almond milk or water (you can also add an Aloe Shot)

        Drink this and wait about 1 hour before eating a high protein, gluten-free breakfast.

        Then take these supplements:

        Organic Oregano Oil Extract (drops in water)
        if you hate oregano oil- do garlic extract

        Vitamin A
        Vitmain B1 (300 mg at least)
        Vitamin B complex
        Vitamin C (2000 mg)
        Vitamin D
        Vitamin D3
        MSM Glucosamine

        at last, take Vitamin B3 (Niacin)

        Make sure to take the kind that makes you flush. You take this on a gradient. Start with 50mg one day, 100mg the next, etc. until you get up to about 2000mg without major flushing. Your body becomes immune to the effect of the vitamin and as this detoxifies you, there will be less reaction.

        Once you take the B3, start doing cardio for 30 mins. You can go on a run, run on a treadmill, run in place, etc.

        Then move onto upper body weights for 15 minutes. Make sure to focus on the parts of your body that are causing you trouble or feel weak.

        During this exercise, you will be flushing slightly from the Niacin. Some days will be stronger than others. Just keep going with this. After a couple of weeks, you feel a very extreme difference in your mindset and your body will feel different.
        After this workout, make sure to eat a snack. (I personally avoided Dairy and Gluten at all costs)

        After eating this snack, I would take 2-3 hours and work on something that required mental and physical energy. As an example, I would set out to wash every car in the garage or I would decide to clean out the fridge or I would reorganize and clean an entire room.

        If your body and mind aren’t up for walking, you can just sit in one place and set out to accomplish starting and finishing something. This could be an art project, reading a chapter of a book, organizing a box, anything.

        Eat a good-sized dinner too.


        Tomatoes, Oranges, Dairy, Gluten and non-organic meat, GMOs and non-organic food + Anger, stressful environments (doesn’t let the body heal- triggers hormones)

        Herbs/Supplements that help with crippling body anxiety:

        Lemon Balm, Valerian Root, GABA, Passion Flower, Lavender Sprays

        The whole concept is you are using the enzyme (serrapeptase) to draw out anything that’s foreign to your body, killing it with the antibiotic herbs (oregano/garlic), drawing out toxins and leveling out the blood flow (with Niacin) and then supplementing a clean slate with all the normal vitamins and nourishing your brain with brain food (amino acids).

  10. I’m treating Lyme disease right now. Thank you.

    • Alex K WIsner Alex K WIsner says:

      I wish you so much luck! If you need any recommendations on natural remedies for symptoms, feel free to email me.

  11. Janet Chambers says:

    I was diagnosed with Lyme disease 5 years ago and was taking Antibiotics and Nonsteroidal anti-Inflammatory drug which seemed to help. However, I still suffer from some of the symptoms. My symptoms have always been chronic fatigue, joint pain, and even neurological problems in controlling hand and leg movements. I am a 54 year old female. the Antibiotics wasn’t really working and I could not tolerate them for long due to severe side effects, so this year our family doctor started me on Natural Herbal Gardens Lyme disease Herbal mixture, We ordered their Lyme disease herbal treatment after reading alot of positive reviews, i am happy to report with the help of Natural Herbal Garden natural herbs I have been able to reverse my symptoms using herbs, my symptoms totally declined over a 8 weeks use of the Natural Herbal Gardens Lyme disease herbal mixture. My Lyme disease is totally reversed! Their official web page is www . naturalherbalgardens . com this is a herbal store that will be leaving it’s footprint in this world. I’m 54 and have never been this healthier

  12. Jenny brown says:

    Every cloud… amazing lesson for one so young. Enjoy your journey

  13. Christina K. says:

    This made me cry. Thank you for providing such an honest account or Lyme Disease. You described it to a “T.” May the hope from your story light the way for the remainder of us.

  14. Rick Maggio. says:

    I feel the same way right now and I’m very alone and scared. I hate feeling like this. I want to give up. Tired of going to bed crying alone. My girl left me, cause she said I wasnt acting right. I’m just broken

  15. Yamileth says:

    Hello Alex, what’s your email? I would love to ask you some questions. Ty

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